Are you OK?
How many times have you been asked that question and not replied honestly?
How come it can be so hard to tell someone how you are really feeling?
This is the second time I’ve asked this question here, because I feel like it’s one that we all need to be asked at some point in our lives – and we need to learn to answer it honestly.
I’m not saying open your heart up to every single person you meet who greets you with “how are ya?”, but you’ll be surprised how the people close to you can pick up on your moods and how you are really feeling. If they genuinely ask what’s up, why not tell them what is going on for you?
Are you OK?
I’ve brushed off this question so many times in my life and I kick myself every time I do it.
Sometimes you don’t realise just how much you are living inside your head.
You know that little narrative voice that talks to you all day long? Tells you you’re being too ridiculous, or dramatic, or picky, or too sensitive, or not sensitive enough… you know the one? That voice can be great at times, it can even be a life saver!
But it can also be toxic.
When you live inside your head too much, you start to believe your own bullshit.
I’m sorry to put it like that, but I really can’t describe it any other way? We really are our own worst critics… and sometimes we start to honestly believe what we are thinking is true.
Years ago I convinced myself at a young age that because my Dad left my Mum, that meant that any partner I would ever have would end up leaving me… Not even kidding. Sounds silly right? But somehow my mind made it real. I would actually end up jeopardising relationships because I didn’t want them to leave me – so I left them first. How stupid is that?!
It wasn’t until I opened up to someone about it one day, that I realised what I had been doing for so many years and just how powerful my thoughts were.
So why am I sharing this?
Why am I asking if you are OK?
Because sometimes you just need someone to ask you that question.
And it’s OK to tell them the truth.
You don’t have to be OK all of the time… but what you must do is get outside of your head.
Because usually, once you verbalise something, you realise how silly it can be. You realise that it is just your opinion, it’s not necessarily the truth!
Last time I asked this question, I got so many lovely messages from people I didn’t even know, all because I had opened up and created a space for people to have a conversation.
And a conversation could change a life…