How strong is your relationship?

How well do you know your partner?

Are you aware of the strengths you both bring to the relationship, and how often do you talk about what is working and what isn’t for each of you?

I only ask because quite often I get questioned on how I handle the long-distance relationship situation…

And until I actually started to think about it, I wasn’t really sure?

It has been almost 2 months since I last saw my partner, and I feel like our relationship is stronger than ever, strange right?

So when I get asked how we do it, if I had to sum up what is really working for us, it would be the following:

  • We know who we are – we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses inside out.
    Although I almost had to drag him to come along to one of our events, it ended up being one of the best things we’ve ever done for our relationship. I now know exactly how he likes to be talked to, and vice versa. I know our similarities, and why we get along so well, but just as importantly, why we sometimes don’t!
  • We communicate – we don’t hide how we feel about things.
    No relationship can work without communication. Actions are simply not enough. Lack of communication and misinterpretation are huge relationship killers. You can’t simply assume your partner knows how you feel! Biggest learning curve for me was when he told me he “can’t read my mind” so how can I expect him to know what’s wrong if I don’t tell him? And don’t think that telling someone what is wrong has to lead to an argument – that’s where mastering the art of communication comes in handy. It helps you approach a potentially confronting or awkward situation in a way that is far more likely to be successful.
  • We appreciate each other – we make each other feel important.
    At the end of the day, everyone just wants to feel appreciated – it’s a psychological need! Showing appreciation to your partner is one of the best things you could ever do. Sometimes when you become really close to someone, you forget to thank them for just being them. It starts coming down to Valentines Days, and birthdays to tell them how you feel. But not everyone likes to be appreciated in the same way. People have different love languages and it is very important to know what yours and your partners are! Whether they prefer kind words, a hug, a gift, or simply doing something nice for them, it’s not necessarily the same way you like to be appreciated! So don’t think that simply ‘treating them how you would like to be treated’ is the right way to go… Find out what is important to them!

relationshipsSo all relationships take a bit of work sometimes, but remember “the key to making great relationships work, is to work at creating great relationships.”

And who doesn’t want to have great relationships?

Not even just romantically, but in every area of your life?

If you be yourself, and you’re open and honest with the people you love, they should love you for that.

Remember to celebrate each other’s strengths, and the great things you both bring to the relationship, because too often we are quick to point out each other’s flaws…

If you want to know how to find out more about yourself or your partner, come along to our next event

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